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Staying friends after a breakup

Take-aways You can be friends with your ex, but only when you both have no romantic interest in one another anymore If you have romantic feelings you will not be able to separate them from feelings of friendship If you have feelings for your ex and she doesn't have feelings for you then she is…

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Do you miss her, or do you miss how she made you feel?

Missing our former partner may be the most defining emotion we experience after the end of a relationship. It’s absolutely natural to miss someone, especially if that person played a large role in our lives. And it’s also natural for this feeling to come and go rather unexpectedly. The end of the…

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How the end of a business relationship taught me something about breakups

I worked with a business coach over the span of a couple of months. As of this writing we’re no longer working together and also not in touch with one another. The reason I think this story is worth sharing with you is because the storyline of a simple working relationship has some interesting…

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Why did she start doing X on social media?

I received an email from a reader and would like to take the time to respond. I will comment inline as I think that will give us all the most insights. Subject: Please help me get my ex back I hope this email finds you well. I’m going through pain and sadness. I’m hurting. I’m heartbroken. I truly…

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Always be willing to walk away

During a negotiation, one of the most powerful positions to have, is one where you have the power to walk away. If the other person needs something from you more than you need something from them, you will wield the majority of the power in the negotiation. We can use the same lens to look at…

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Feelings aren't truths

When we're in love we feel amazing and we tend to think the person we're in love with is uniquely suited to be with us. We believe they are irreplaceable. It takes a failed relationship (or several) to realize that this absolutist mindset is a built-in feature of love. It's part of the diagnosis. It…

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Does she really love this new guy?

Getting dumped and having your ex-girlfriend leave you for another guy is the most painful thing I have ever experience and many of the guys that have commented on this blog would probably agree with me. One question that I've heard these guys ask, more often than once, is: "Does she really love…

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Get her out of your head

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