Meditation for Breakup Recovery

During a breakup you have to deal with a host of intense and taxing emotions. As a result you’re likely to experience considerable amounts of stress. Being in a state of stress negatively influences your emotions and it has been shown that stress will negatively impact your immune system. You can alleviate the increased psychological burden of stress with good nutrition, working out and meditation. Which makes meditation a great tool for breakup recovery.

Now most guys I know don’t meditate, and many of them wouldn’t even contemplate it. In fact, I used to be one of those guys. The arguments that ended up convincing me, weren’t related to spirituality. They were related to health.
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Embarrassment

Feeling embarrassed after a breakupIf you’ve just broken up, just gotten dumped or your ex left you for another guy, you’re going through a lot of powerful emotions. Although there’s a lot to be said about the different emotions and how best to handle them, I want to focus on a particular emotion in this article: embarrassment.

A lot of guys feel embarrassed during a breakup. A breakup can give you the sense that you’ve been rejected or that people are somehow judging you for it. Both can lead to feelings of embarrassment. The worst part is that it adds up to your other feelings dragging you down. You were already feeling worthless and sad and now you’ve got this embarrassment to deal with. Dealing with a breakup can at times seem as an insurmountable task. It can become hard to get yourself out the front door when you’re feeling like this – let alone get over someone.
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A General Theory of Love

A General Theory of Love

A General Theory of Love by Thomas Lewis, M.D., Fari Amini, M.D. and Richard Lannon, M.D. is the most eloquently phrased rebuke of the conventional psychoanalyst’s take on love you can imagine. Backing their arguments up with the latest in scientific research the authors ‘set things straight’ on the topic of love.

The authors start at the beginning, explaining the evolutionary development of our triunal brain and its impact on our behavior. This forms the basis going further as they explain love – but also human behavior in general – in a very clear ‘bigger picture’. The point is made that we base our model of love on our emotional memory, which is highly impressionable as we grow up.

But the most invaluable piece of this work is the chapter on changing this – seemingly inaccessible – emotional memory. A very in-depth and profound explanation is given to what psychotherapy really does for someone, how it heals, and how it can change your emotional memory. There is no better resource to have at hand when you explore your past.

Absolutely mind blowing.

Check it out on Amazon or check out Thomas Lewis’ personal website

Why We Love

Why We Love

Why We Love by Helen Fisher is an amazing journey into the intricacies of the brain in love. Helen Fisher is a renowned anthropologist and a leader in the field of research of love, its nature and its chemistry. With amazing candor and eloquence Fisher excavates the human brain whilst high on love and walks you through every step of her reasoning.

Based on patterns observed in the brain – constellations of neurotransmitter activity – Fisher deduces three distinct patterns in which humans feel attracted: love, lust and attachment. She equates these to non-exclusive reproductive strategies, through which evolution optimally wired us to have multiple strategies to procreate.

Another interesting observation by Fisher is that the love constellations in brains of those who got rejected by their beloved, fires up, rather than dies down. Fisher proves that people feel more in love when they face adversity.

Fisher devotes an entire chapter to the brain science of romantic rejection. With a scientific perspective she goes over the feelings involved in a breakup and their root in our evolutionary history. The psychiatrist’s model for romantic rejection, where a stage of protest and a stage of resignation/despair are identified, is also discussed at great length.

Needless to say, a profound exploration of the topic of love and a must read for anyone seriously interested in the subject.

Check it out on Amazon, or visit Helen Fisher’s site.

A great, in-depth review is available here.

The Breakup Bible

The Breakup Bible

The Breakup Bible by Rachel A. Sussman is a refreshing, effective and holistic guide to getting over a breakup. Although written specifically for women, a lot of the advice is just as valuable to men. Sussman draws from her experience as a licensed psychotherapist and lecturer specializing in relationship counseling.

Sussman’s approach is three-fold, focusing on healing, understanding and the transformation. She skillfully ties her experience as a licensed psychotherapist into this work by including detailed strategies for engaging your ex and understanding your personal Love Map.

Overall one of the best breakup guides I have read.

Check it out on Amazon or check out Rachel’s personal website.

How Do I Get Over Her?

Are you asking yourself “How do I get over her?” You’ve come to the right place. You are about to learn some of the most powerful insights and valuable techniques for getting over someone. It can take a long time to get over your ex and it can be a frustrating and tiring process. Know that it will be harder the more you are reminded of her, the more you stay in touch with her and the more you stalk her facebook page. If you haven’t already, go through my guide for men – How to Get Over a Break Up.
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How To Heal A Broken Heart

Healing A Broken HeartIn the sections on dealing with a breakup I gave you tools to survive the day-to-day challenges of a breakup. Now it’s time to give you some tools to concentrate on how to heal your broken heart.

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Dealing With a Breakup For Men

How to deal with a breakup for menA break up hurts… like hell. There is no better way of putting it. It’s intensely painful. And dealing with a breakup involves getting through some of that pain to still be able to get things done in your life.

If it’s a recent break up, you’re probably still in shock and having a hard time accepting it emotionally. In fact your emotions are probably running the show. In this article I will teach you some techniques, specifically for guys, on how to deal with your breakup.

Regardless if you’ve been dating for a year, or married for twenty, you are going to be overwhelmed with incomprehensible sadness. Maybe even a combination of disbelief, anger and obsessiveness topped with an overall lack of control over your emotions. You’re not just mourning the loss of someone very close to you, dreams of growing old together are shredded.
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