Breakup Advice for Men: 7 Steps to Recovery

Breakup Advice For MenIn this article I’ve tried to summarize a lot of the concepts I talk about on this blog into the most important breakup advice for men. Going through a relationship breakup is excruciating. Feelings of incomprehensible sadness permeate every aspect of your life. There is no doubt in my mind that it’s one of the most painful things there is in life. But – maybe for that reason – over time, it has the capacity to become one of the most profound and inspirational experiences you’ll ever endure. Too many guys out there, however, end up suppressing their grief and do not use the recovery period to learn more about themselves, relationships and themselves in relationships.

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Meditation for Breakup Recovery

During a breakup you have to deal with a host of intense and taxing emotions. As a result you’re likely to experience considerable amounts of stress. Being in a state of stress negatively influences your emotions and it has been shown that stress will negatively impact your immune system. You can alleviate the increased psychological burden of stress with good nutrition, working out and meditation. Which makes meditation a great tool for breakup recovery.

Now most guys I know don’t meditate, and many of them wouldn’t even contemplate it. In fact, I used to be one of those guys. The arguments that ended up convincing me, weren’t related to spirituality. They were related to health.
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How Long Does It Take To Get Over a Breakup?

How long does it take to get over a breakupIf you came to this page, you’re probably asking yourself: How long does it take to get over a breakup? It’s a question, most men, at some point after their breakup, ask themselves when they’re sick and tired of feeling sad, depressed and empty. You want to know how long the pain is going to last, because sometimes it feels like it’s never going to go away. And I don’t blame you. The pain, at times, can seem endless, and you just want to get on with your life.

The answer, unfortunately, is not clear cut. It will depend on a lot of factors, such as: how attached you were in the relationship, the manner in which your ex broke up (e.g. if she left you for another guy) and how you handle your breakup. Dealing with a breakup ultimately means dealing with your emotions.

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My Girlfriend Left Me For Another Guy

My girlfriend left me for another guy and it was devastating. It’s one thing to be on the receiving end of a breakup. You experience rejection by someone you love and hold dearly. It can be incredibly confusing and painful (which is why I created an extensive guide with all my best advice on how to get over a breakup for men). When your girlfriend leaves you for another man, however, things can get even worse.

Update: Be sure to check out the comment section for many similar stories!

Not only do you have to deal with feelings of rejection of being dumped, and feelings of loneliness and loss associated with the breakup, you ALSO have to deal with feelings of ineptitude, insignificance and betrayal. It’s brutal, and if it’s happened to you, I feel for you.

My girlfriend left me for someone else, and the intense, debilitating pain I went through was the catalyst for this blog. In addition I’ve talked to a lot of guys that have gone through similar experiences and I truly believe it is one of the most painful experiences available to the male human being.

It destroys your world.

I remember when it happened to me. It felt as if it had literally torn open my heart. The emotional pain was so bad it turned into physical pain combined with the worst types of anxiety I have ever experienced.

If that sounds familiar, you’ve come to the right place.

(I couldn’t cover all there is to know in this article. Save yourself time and needless suffering and get access to my best pieces of advice in my book: The Breakup Recovery Manual for Men.)

Listen man, I wish I could give you one technique to make all your pain go away. But I can’t. No one can. The reality is you’re going to feel like shit for a while.

But you know what? That’s okay. Because it’s normal to feel sad and depressed after a breakup. And you know what? You’re going to get over her. You’re going to deal with your breakup and move on. These days may be the hardest but it keeps getting easier and easier. And if you put the tools and techniques on this site to work, you’ll become a better man because of it!

I’m going to be super blunt with you, because if after reading my breakup guide, you’re still hungry for more. You need to hear this.

WARNING: This is not for the faint-hearted.
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Why We Love

Why We Love

Why We Love by Helen Fisher is an amazing journey into the intricacies of the brain in love. Helen Fisher is a renowned anthropologist and a leader in the field of research of love, its nature and its chemistry. With amazing candor and eloquence Fisher excavates the human brain whilst high on love and walks you through every step of her reasoning.

Based on patterns observed in the brain – constellations of neurotransmitter activity – Fisher deduces three distinct patterns in which humans feel attracted: love, lust and attachment. She equates these to non-exclusive reproductive strategies, through which evolution optimally wired us to have multiple strategies to procreate.

Another interesting observation by Fisher is that the love constellations in brains of those who got rejected by their beloved, fires up, rather than dies down. Fisher proves that people feel more in love when they face adversity.

Fisher devotes an entire chapter to the brain science of romantic rejection. With a scientific perspective she goes over the feelings involved in a breakup and their root in our evolutionary history. The psychiatrist’s model for romantic rejection, where a stage of protest and a stage of resignation/despair are identified, is also discussed at great length.

Needless to say, a profound exploration of the topic of love and a must read for anyone seriously interested in the subject.

Check it out on Amazon, or visit Helen Fisher’s site.

A great, in-depth review is available here.

The Breakup Bible

The Breakup Bible

The Breakup Bible by Rachel A. Sussman is a refreshing, effective and holistic guide to getting over a breakup. Although written specifically for women, a lot of the advice is just as valuable to men. Sussman draws from her experience as a licensed psychotherapist and lecturer specializing in relationship counseling.

Sussman’s approach is three-fold, focusing on healing, understanding and the transformation. She skillfully ties her experience as a licensed psychotherapist into this work by including detailed strategies for engaging your ex and understanding your personal Love Map.

Overall one of the best breakup guides I have read.

Check it out on Amazon or check out Rachel’s personal website.

How Do I Get Over Her?

Are you asking yourself “How do I get over her?” You’ve come to the right place. You are about to learn some of the most powerful insights and valuable techniques for getting over someone. It can take a long time to get over your ex and it can be a frustrating and tiring process. Know that it will be harder the more you are reminded of her, the more you stay in touch with her and the more you stalk her facebook page. If you haven’t already, go through my guide for men – How to Get Over a Break Up.
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How To Heal A Broken Heart

Healing A Broken HeartIn the sections on dealing with a breakup I gave you tools to survive the day-to-day challenges of a breakup. Now it’s time to give you some tools to concentrate on how to heal your broken heart.

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