Breakup Coaching

Jesse MartinHi, my name is Jesse Martin and I’m a breakup coach for men.

If you’re struggling after your relationship has come to an end, I may be able to help.

You see, I have the dubious honour of having been left for another guy… twice.

That’s right. It happened to me twice.

Two different ex-girlfriends decided to dump me in favour of some other guy.

And boy did that suck. Yes, both times it sucked.

But here I am, helping guys around the world find happiness again and deal with the aftermath of a breakup.

Despite what I’ve been through, I’m not bitter about love. On the contrary, I think it’s the most beautiful human experience and you should count yourself lucky when you get to love and be loved in return.

I also haven’t become resentful of women. Absolutely not, I think they’re amazing creatures and I love being around female energy.

And I don’t feel any negativity towards any of my ex-girlfriends.

Not at all.

The truth is I don’t think about them much. But when I do I feel thankful for the good times we had and I feel at peace with how things played out.

In both cases I can see why things came to an end – and even why they came to an end the way they did.

And that’s a pretty good place to be.

It’s this place that I’ve reached with regards to both breakups that I teach other guys how to get to.

It’s a place of

  1. Being at peace with what happened
  2. Being thankful for the good times
  3. Understanding what went wrong.

It wasn’t always like this. Like I said before – at the time, it sucked. Big time.

You can read more about my story here.

How can I help you?

By now, I’ve worked with many, many guys going through a wide range of scenarios.

Although everyone’s situation is unique, there are some recurring patterns that tend to pop up and there are some shared themes across the different patterns.

Pretty much everyone deals with:

  1. Profound fear (whether it’s about losing her forever or never finding someone again)
  2. Overwhelming, destabilizing emotions (Sadness, anxiety, anger among others)

In a 1-on-1 session with me I can show you how to relate to your fear in a better way. Your fears will become more manageable and less scary.

Similarly I can teach you how to deal with overwhelming emotions so they don’t destabilize your life.

Most guys that struggle after a breakup are the ones that were dumped, but if you dumped her, you can still struggle (more on that later).

Those in the Protest phase

If the relationship has come to an end but you’re still hopeful that you’ll get back together, you’re typically going to be in what we call the Protest phase. This means you’re pre-occupied with one thing: how to get her back. If she continues to reject you (which is most often the case) you’ll be feeling pain over and over again.

This phase is characterized by:

  1. Fear and anxiety about losing her forever.
  2. Fear and anxiety about losing your soulmate/the one.

My view on getting her back is very simple. Your best chances to get her back is to cut all ties with her and become a new and better version of yourself.

But…

What I’ve also seen is that pretty much every guy that sets out to become a better version of himself (to win back their ex), ends up no longer wanting her back!

You see most breakups happen because the relationship wasn’t going to last in the first place. This is what many guys (who initially want their ex back) discover.

Regardless if you end up winning her back or not, the best way forward is working on yourself, and I can help you do that.

Those in the Despair phase

If you’ve lost hope that there’s any chance of getting back together – that’s not a bad thing. Often it’s just the reality of the situation sinking in.

This phase is characterized by:

  1. Fear or never finding someone as good/as compatible/as attractive.
  2. Fear of being alone forever and fear of dying alone
  3. Fear you’ll never love again
  4. Sadness and anxiety about having lost the love of your life/your best friend.
  5. Feelings of emptiness, loneliness
  6. Feeling lost about where to go from here.

When you lose hope and enter the Despair phase it can feel as if you’re going backward. You can feel more in pain than before.

You won’t feel like this forever.

I can teach you how to relate to these fears in a way that make them more manageable, how to overcome your loneliness and feelings of emptiness and how to rediscover a zest for life.

Through 1-on-1 sessions with me it’s not uncommon that we’re able to transform your pain into a profound and positive life experience.

Really.

Those that are “still” not over her

Many guys go pass through the stages of heartbreak on their own with the tools they have at the time.

And some of them recover, in their own way, on their own time.

Sometimes, however, some pain is left unresolved. Some closure is missing.

This is characterized by certain thoughts and feelings persisting many months after the breakup:

  1. Lingering feelings for her
  2. Obsessive thoughts about her and the relationship
  3. Resentment towards her and what she did
  4. Confusion about what happened
  5. Pessimism or bitterness towards the future and future love

In these cases during the 1-on-1 sessions we search for what is incomplete, what is unresolved and we bring that to the surface.

By processing and dealing with these unresolved elements we’re able to put you back on track, get rid of whatever is lingering and set you up for finding love in the future.

Dumper’s remorse and more

In a minority of cases, it’s you, the guy, that ended the relationship.

But as you probably know, if that’s you, that doesn’t mean you’re happy with the situation.

This situation is characterized by:

  1. Feeling you’ve made a mistake
  2. Resentment towards her

In these situations we go through what happened, what feels incomplete or what needs attention.

Often by going through these elements we’re able to identify what’s coming to the surface and turn it around.

 

1-on-1 Breakup Coaching

Breakups are painful. It’s part of nature’s design that they’re that way.

But in almost all cases we have a tendency of making them exceedingly painful. We do stuff that prolongs our suffering.

What’s more, very few of us have the knowledge or the experience to get through something like this in an effective way.

That’s where I can help.

We can jump on a 1-on-1 video conferenceĀ coaching call where we dissect your situation and I can provide you with an outside, expert opinion as teach you relevant techniques and mindsets that can lift you out of the misery you’re feeling.

The goal is to get you to the point where you:

  1. Are at peace with what happened
  2. Can be thankful for the good times
  3. Understand what went wrong and can take that knowledge to future relationships

Typically this doesn’t need to take long. My clients needs anywhere from 1 to 5 sessions to get themselves on the right track.

What some of my past clients say

I want to take the opportunity to personally endorse Jesse and his therapeutic coaching methodology. His coaching helped ease the devastation I was feeling and he gave me methods and techniques to survive the storm I was feeling

P. From Miami

Jesse helped me at one of the lowest points in my life. I understood what was going on, but he reaffirmed my beliefs on what my ex girlfriend was thinking. If you are struggling with a break up I would recommend speaking with Jesse. He knows what he is talking about.

D.A. from L.A.

Start with a free phone call here

If you’re really struggling, don’t wait any longer. It may get better by itself (which can take longer than you expect) but the sad reality is that sometimes it doesn’t.

Take action. Let me help you through this.

Let’s have a quick chat (free of charge) to see if it’s a fit.

You can email me at jesse [at] rapidbreakuprecovery.com

Really, really hope to hear from you.

Warm regards,

Jesse