About Jesse Martin

Hi, it’s Jesse here.

I wanted to take a minute and introduce myself.

3 years ago, I was where you are now.

My ex girlfriend dumped me out of the blue and left me for another guy.

It felt as if my heart had literally broken.

I could NOT believe this was happening to me. I was in a state of utter shock and denial.

Then I started to realize that this was reality, and I felt the very fabric of my existence crumble me, I felt WORTHLESS.

I tried chasing her, persuading her, tricking her into coming back. But she wasn’t responding the way I was used to, she was ignoring my needs, not seeing my pain, not LISTENING to me. It didn’t work.

All I could think of was how magical our relationship had been, how could this be the end?

Then I just became sad. Intensely sad. I curled up in bed, shut myself off from the rest of the world, and mostly cried and slept for a couple of days.

Inbetween the crying sessions I would think about her with this new guy. I would think about them obsessively. I would obsess about her. How could she do this to me? To us?

I would get mad. REALLY mad. I HATED her, but I LOVED her.

But I couldn’t stay in my room forever, I had to face the world. But when I did I would walk into mutual friends of ours, and I felt PROFOUNDLY insecure. I had the feeling that I was the laughing stock of my town.

At this point I figured I needed a change in scenery. I needed OUT. So I decided to move to a different city for 6 months. During this period I said to myself “I am going to figure out how I can reclaim control over my emotions, my life and my identity, no matter what it takes.”

I went out and read every book and I listened to every audio and video course on relationships, love and breaking up out there. And you know what? Most breakup advice I came across was written by and geared towards women. Consequently, I did not find any of it satisfying. “Listening to new music”, “doing new things” and “rearranging my room” were not helping me get over the painful phase.

In fact, it took me a long time to get over it completely, and I now realize why.

I did not have a strong sense of who I was

I didn’t know who I was, or what I stood for, and I had become dependent on my girlfriend to define myself.

I came to several profound realizations during this period. A big one for me was realizing that this happens to a lot of guys.

The striking contrast of how utterly destroyed I felt back then with how great I feel now has inspired me to become a breakup recovery coach for men. I think I can really make a difference for guys going through that hell.

With hindsight, not only do I realize that my breakup was inevitable, it was a necessary catalyst to rebuild my shattered identity from the ground up. I believe the same is true for most of my readers.

Why should you believe that I can help you?

As you already know quite well, there are a lot of people running around trying to convince you that they have all the answers.

Some claim you can get over your breakup in just 30 days, others claim you can still get her back.

Well, unfortunately for you, I don’t have ALL the answers.

But I do believe that I have SOME of the answers (and I think the answers I have are pretty important).

The question you’re probably asking is “Why should I believe what Jesse says?”.

And my answer to you is that you SHOULDN’T just blindly believe me.

In fact, I would recommend that you approach my material with a healthy skepticism, and a “scientific” perspective.

I want you to TRY what you learn from me.

Work with me one-on-one

Jesse Martin