How to stop thinking you’ll get back together

From Chaz in Mexico:

I am on a really good path to becoming a better man, we broke up two months ago after 7 years together. I am physically and mentally ok. The only problem is this hunch and gut feeling that I will end up marrying her and making my life with her. How can I stop this?

Way to go on getting on the right path.

This is a lingering feeling which I remember having. It’s the feeling that leads guys astray and makes them break no contact.

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My first love left me for someone else

From Brian in the US: I am trying so hard to stop communicating with my ex. Your articles are very helpful. I feel so “weak”. I am 45 years old and my ex was my first love. I was married for 25 years right out of high school, so when I got divorced I have […]

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Your different personalities

Have you ever felt a certain way about something only later to completely lose that feeling and even to have a hard time remembering how you felt in the first place.¬†Sometimes you’re motivated to do something and it seems to happen automatically. Other times it seems like a chore, like an uphill battle. What’s the […]

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No contact when you work together

Hey Jesse, I love your website and have started to really get into the reading. I am coming out of a 7 year relationship and it is truly horrible. I have a particular problem, we work together. We own a company together. I know if I could cut off all contact for 6 months I […]

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How a breakup builds character

The breakup that was the catalyst for this website was back in 2010. I went through a lot of different emotions and only once I had overcome most of them, did I start writing this blog. Sometimes, however, something will happen to me in my daily life, and I’ll feel something, and it will take […]

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I’m Going No Contact, Now What?

No Contact Now What?

From a reader: Hey Jesse! My girlfriend and I had been dating on and off for about 3 and a half years, now that we are both about to go off to college things got stressful and we started fighting much more. She broke it off, and has never seemed to look back. The times […]

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Use your anger

Use your anger

After my breakup, several years ago, I decided I wanted to get better at interacting with women. I had always been nervous and shy around women and it left me without any control over my love life. Like most guys my success was largely dependent on random interactions through my social circles. Once in a […]

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My ex-girlfriend needs time and space, but she still loves me

My Ex-Girlfriend Needs Space

From a reader: Hi, my girlfriends been left the house now for 6 weeks saying she wants time and space so that is what I have given her. It’s been tough really tough. Anyway I found out the other week she needs to be on her own and be single, even though she still loves […]

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How To Stop Dwelling In The Past

How To Stop Dwelling In The Past

From a reader: Hi Jesse, I have been reading your articles and they are very helpful. A few months ago my ex broke up with me a week after our one year anniversary. It was long distance and she was from LA and I am from Philadelphia, but we both met at Penn State. She […]

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How To Deal With Loneliness

How to deal with loneliness

From a reader: Hey jesse.. i’m just a regular guy ..20 years old..i am studying in college…the issue that I am facing since a long time is loneliness. Let me put it this way, I used to have quite a happy life 2 years back. Everything was just perfect. I scored good in studies,had a […]

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